I’m really fond of you, but…
Oh goodness. Has anyone ever said something like this to you? They give you a compliment and then…the dreaded transition word comes – “I’m really fond of you, BUT…”
Let me start at the beginning –
I teach a few voice and piano lessons. My bachelor’s degree is in Music Education and I did spend a few years teaching in public schools. These days I like to focus those skills by teaching private lessons. I have a few elementary aged kids and also a few adults who are picking it up after wanting to learn for many years. Admittedly, most of the kids are taking because their PARENTS want them too. And as such, they meet me for lessons with some measure of disdain. That doesn’t bother me though. I make it as fun as I can while teaching them skills that I know help them in other areas of life.
This story is about one student in particular, Lexi. I have been teaching her for a couple years now and she’s pretty talented. This child can remember everything we’ve covered, she memorizes songs effortlessly, and has a fearlessness that will serve her well in life.
Over these past two years, Lexi hasn’t hidden the fact that despite her talents, piano just isn’t her most favorite activity, but she’s never come right out and told me so.
Until the other day…
We were sitting there having our lesson, and Lexi was a little distracted. I could see she wasn’t totally into it. Finally, she turns to me, sweetly puts her hand on my shoulder and says,
“I’m really fond of you, but I just don’t care for piano.”
Then she proceeded to give me a hug, just to illustrate that there are no hard feelings.
I LOVE THAT!
Oh, from the mouths of babes! If only we could all learn this lesson.
We don’t all have to love the same things or share the same interests or even agree on the deeper issues of life. We can STILL recognize each others’ iridescent amazingness and treat each other with love and honor. Wouldn’t that be fantastic?
If we take a moment to pause, I would imagine we could all think of someone that we have a hard time dealing with because of some difference we have with them. But what if we were able to put that aside and see how shiny and sparkly they are anyway? I tell ya, I think it could prove to be a powerful exercise.
So, even though it surprised me a bit at first, thanks Lexi for your words of wisdom! I am deeply grateful. And I’m really fond of you too. : )