Category Archives for "transformation"

Hitting the reset button

A few weeks ago I went on a cleanse. My intention was to reset my digestion. You know, give my insides a chance to rest and not have to do all that hard work of processing food. I have found that this is something that is beneficial for me a couple of times a year. Because I have done this before, I knew what to expect. I knew it would break my cravings. I knew I would lose a couple pounds. I knew I would feel lighter in my body and clearer in my head.

Here’s what I didn’t expect…

I did not expect this break in eating my normal foods to also reset my mind, my emotions and my spirit.

As I changed up my eating plan and the rhythm of my days, I felt all these other things start to re-arrange themselves, too.

Immediately after I finished the cleanse, I went on a 9 day retreat at an Ashram in Austin, Texas to learn about Ayurveda with Kathryn from YogaFit. And the transformation continued. My days were consumed of yoga practices, gaining knowledge about our bodies and food and how to feed our bodies to maximize our health and wellness. We meditated. We shared meals together. We laughed and we cried.

And I felt things continue to shift.

My desires reorganized. All of a sudden those aspects of my morning routine that had been elusive became so important that I didn’t have to try so hard to get them done anymore. I just did them. Because I could feel the value in them. Instead of being something I knew I “needed” to do, they became things I sincerely wanted to do.

It’s that time of year. The change from the heat of summer into the crisp coolness of autumn also calls to us to begin some changing on the inside too.

What is it that needs to change in your life? Is it the foods you eat? The exercise you do (or don’t do)? Your daily routine of self-care (or self-neglect)? How about your meditation practice?

Whatever it is for you, I’d like to make a suggestion. Rather than just taking that one thing and resolving to change it in yourself “no matter what” – what if instead you hit the system reset button? What if you listened to your body, heart, soul, emotions and mind as you move through the change of autumn to see what you really need deep down?

As you turn up the volume of what your deepest self is asking for, you may just find that those new routines or habits that have been elusive for years become so vitally important that you wouldn’t dream of missing them.

I’d like to offer you a free gift to help you create the space you need to move forward on this journey. Please shoot me an email and let me know which of these tools you would most like and I will send you a link so you can download it. I’m looking forward to hearing from you and sharing this part of the journey together!

  • Breathing Meditation
  • Letting Go Meditation
  • Self-Love Mini Course
  • Soothing Meditation
  • Energizing Meditation

Deeply transformational mundane activities

Come again? What in the world is a “deeply transformational mundane activity????” We read about and long for something to change us. That magical moment when, all of a sudden we are made new.

As a teen and young adult, I had the opportunity to go on regular spiritual retreats. So, I tended to “save” my transformational energy for those glorious weekends and weeks when I could really focus on my inner journey. But as those opportunities faded away, I was left to figure out my own growth and I was unsure how to facilitate it.

As a result, for far too many years, I kept “holding out” for the chance to take a retreat or vacation or go to some super-spiritual conference where I would finally experience that transformation again. Like I could order it up, add a side of glowing wisdom, pay in advance, and pick it up at my convenience.

I hate to be the one to break it to myself….but ummmm….that doesn’t really happen.

Bummer.

While I was trying to “survive” the day-to-day activities until said transformational event, I was missing out on thousands of opportunities in the “mundane” activities of life to facilitate that transformation I so desperately wanted.

Let me illustrate.Warrior 2

As you may know, I am a yoga teacher (and trainer for YogaFit Training Systems). One day I saw one of my students at the gym. She hadn’t been to yoga class in awhile, and it was great to see her. She said, “I’m sorry I haven’t been to class lately. I have been working with weights here at the gym so I can get strong enough to make it through your class.” Hmmm. I was befuddled. Why would she go to the gym to get in shape for yoga class? I asked her what part of class she found challenging. She said it was the crocodile (or chaturanga) poses. Ahh…I see. I replied, “You know, I think it’s great to work out at the gym. There are tons of benefits of being able to move weight outside your own body. However, if you want to get better at Crocodile pose….?” The light went on! “YOU HAVE TO PRACTICE CROCODILE POSE!!!!” She exclaimed.

Yes!

In that moment I was the teacher…and the student.

All of a sudden my own light went on. All that transformation I was waiting for so I could deal with the mundane daily activities of life? Yep. You guessed it. If I want to be transformed in daily life, that transformation is most likely to happen in those same mundane activities.

Now, I will say that going to the retreat or on vacation or to the super-spiritual conference is AWESOME! And I wouldn’t trade those treats for anything. BUT – much of my deepest transformation comes in the middle of the school pick-up line, working through a crazy morning at home, driving down the highway, and even preparing dinner. If life is pushing on me as I prepare dinner, I do my best to pull back and observe and see what I can learn here. And it seems that those lessons have more staying power than the fun retreat or serious conference. Why? Because I became strong enough for that “pose” of life by practicing it, right there in the moment.

Iridescent Dragonflies Facebook pageAnd this is why Iridescent Dragonflies is a thing. Once I fully embraced that my deepest transformations come from my own awareness and intentionality in the day-to-day activities of life, I realized that I am probably not the only one who is interested in finding the glorious, spiritual, transformation in the quiet moments as the day starts, shopping for groceries and checking email. And, if I like daily (or even hourly) reminders to pause and observe and intend to live from a more centered place, I thought I might as well share them in case you like them too. Those reminders happen on our Facebook page. If you haven’t been there, check it out and see if it resonates for you.

So, dragonfly, what mundane activity can you find deep transformation in today? If you’re not quite sure, I’d start with breathing. Yep. Breathing. Pay attention to your own breath for 5 slow breaths. It’s amazing what can happen when we pause for that short time and shift our focus.

What if you could change that?

Change is in the air! Can you feel it? Some places are starting to cool off (or so I hear…it’s still pretty hot here in the desert!), football games are on TV, all those cute posts of decorated pumpkins are all over Pinterest, and I’ve seen lots of people on Facebook talking about doing a fall cleanse (myself included).

Something about the change in seasons stirs us to action. We want to clean the garage, wear different clothes, cook different food, get a new haircut, etc. We are motivated to DO SOMETHING!

Would you like to make some changes on the inside too?

Wouldn’t it be nice to change some of that negative self-talk into colorful, beautiful, loving self-talk?

Well, Dragonflies, I have something that I made just for you.

Iridescent Love Mini Course!

This mini-course is free and just for you!I am so excited to share it with you!

In this course you will receive a few tips and tools for changing your mind-chatter from negative, boring or just plain mean, into something encouraging, loving and over-the-top awesome!

Check it out and let me know what you think. Pass it along to your friends, too – we can all use a little boost sometimes!

Give me some space!

I love a good podcast! I have about 4 that I listen to on a weekly basis – Big Magic with Elizabeth Gilbert, Learn French by Podcast, Smart Passive Income with Pat Flynn, and The RobCast with Rob Bell. I like them because they are just the right length to learn some great stuff and very portable since they are all on my phone.

Anyway, I was listening to a RobCast this morning. In this podcast, Rob is talking about “The Lost Art.” He is specifically referring to the lost art of creating sermons that matter to people. Not because they are so eloquent, or because they use alliteration in the best way, or even because he made up the funniest joke to illustrate the point. No. What Rob is referring to is the lost art of creating space for people. Space to process loss. Space to wonder. Space to be sorry. Space to feel grace. Space to be connected with other people. Space to experience God.

As I listened to Rob talk about this lost art of creating space, I realized that this space is something I truly long for deep down inside. And I think if we all take a moment to pause and take inventory, we ALL long for this space. Who doesn’t need space in the middle of life to process the experience of life and to connect with God?

And then, as I thought about it some more, I remembered something. I remembered that this deep longing for space is PRECISELY what drove me to create Iridescent Dragonflies in the first place. I wanted and needed space to facilitate my inner transformation. I knew that life was calling me to be more than I am, but I needed space to create that transformation. So – why not create it myself? And I figured if I wanted it and needed it, there must surely be others who want and need the same thing.

And so, about a year ago, Iridescent Dragonflies was born.Iridescent Dragonflies

What about you? Are you experiencing that deep longing for space? Perhaps there are some things that you need to work through, or maybe recover from. Maybe you are ready to move forward into a new part of your journey and you need to pull back and re-group before moving forward.

Let’s do this. . .together!

So, tell me – what is it that is burning deep down? Do you long for space? Do you need a new meditation practice to help you dive deeper into your quiet, still center? Do you simply need some community while you transform?

Tell me what would really help you along your journey and let’s create it together!

Walk through the grass with bare feet

I was out on a walk yesterday and went through a little grassy area. As is my custom, when I got to the grass, I took off my shoes and started to walk through the grass with bare feet. All of a sudden, a dragonfly buzzed right by my head! I LOVE it every time that happens! I always stop and watch them as long as possible when I see them. : )

After that one flew off, I turned back around to continue my walk. Then I saw another one! What a great day! And as I watched that one fly around, I looked at the bigger picture – as I softened my gaze and looked at the entire grassy area.

Then I saw them.

There were hundreds of dragonflies! Maybe more!

Once upon a time, I would have thought, “Oh isn’t that great! How fun to see a bunch of them at once.” And then I would just go on about my day.

But as the years pass, I have come to see that,

these are not chance encounters at all.

I have come to see that we are all more connected than we may realize. Even with animals and insects. Just like we are attracted to certain people as friends or business partners, we are also attracted to specific animals at different times. And often, if we are listening, they have a message for us.

Dragonflies are all about transformation. They bring messages like, “It’s time to begin a transformation from what was to what is coming,” or, “You’re doing a great job! Keep it up! The work is worth the outcome!” or, “That transformational journey you are on? Guess what? You did it! You’re on the other side! Congratulations!”

Now, they haven’t actually said those things to me. Not out loud. But their messages are just as clear as if they had.

So, think about your last few days or weeks – who has wandered across your path recently? What do you think the message for you could be?

Transformation. What does that even mean?

Transformation. It sounds great, right? I mean, who doesn’t want to move from whatever is uninspiring in their current life into the life they dream about? But when it comes down to the nuts and bolts of facilitating that transformation, what does that even mean? How do you actually DO that?

I have these moments from time to time. Here’s the basic gist of how it goes:

  • I realize I don’t like something about my current reality
  • I get all bummed about it and swish my feet in self-pity for awhile
  • I get tired of the self-pity and decide to do something about it
  • I buy a book or enroll in a course that addresses the issue
  • I jump in head first and learn as much as I can and follow all the steps (shameless student!)
  • I get all “I don’t know if I can do this” about it
  • I decide I can’t not do it, and do it even though I have my doubts
  • I emerge on the other side – transformed!

I wish it felt as easy as it looks in bullet-point format!

This is how it actually feels:

  • Ugh. Why do I feel so stuck. Do I need vitamins? Maybe I should drink more water.
  • I’ve been here before. Why am I here again? This stinks. A lot.
  • I call a friend and belly-ache for awhile. (God bless those patient people)
  • I feel better.
  • Kind of.
  • I call another friend and belly-ache.
  • I feel better.
  • Not really.
  • I call another friend. (do you see the pattern?)
  • I get tired of bellyaching.
  • Fine. I’ll look for a book. Meh.
  • Fine. I’ll read the book.
  • I get furious at the book because it’s right.
  • Meh.
  • I don’t feel better at all. In fact, I might feel worse.
  • Hmm. I wonder if I did one of the things in the book, if I might possibly feel a teensy bit better?
  • Couldn’t feel much worse than I do now. Might as well.
  • Fine. What was the first step again?
  • Implement step one. Begrudgingly.
  • Feel a teensy bit better.
  • Implement step two.
  • Take my vitamins.
  • Feel a teensy bit better again.
  • Implement step three.
  • Take my vitamins, and drink a glass of water. (see a new pattern?)
  • Watch out, I’m on a roll!
  • Next thing you know – I’m blogging about it! ; )

Transformation is messy, you guys. And it doesn’t necessarily feel like much when it’s happening. And sometimes it takes a few tries to get it going. And it usually takes several steps to get to the end result. And it almost always means having a friend in the mix. Those online courses with the conference calls or Facebook groups rock because there are other people there to interact with who are going through the same type of transformation.

But the biggest thing is, we have to step up.

Even if it is begrudgingly.

Because we can’t take step two if we haven’t taken step one.

So, what is your step one to transform your life?

 

Here’s one of my favorite transformation tools if you are feeling like you don’t have much to offer life right now or are looking for a nice kick in the seat. You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero. It’s funny and inspiring, all at the same time!

Flipping the negative

Check out this AMAZING painting by my son’s girlfriend, Lydia. She painted the negative. Then she flipped that negative around to show the positive. It is mind-blowing to me! She is SO talented at showing not just incredible detail in her art, but also capturing the moment. (check her out on Facebook – yes, she does commissioned work!)

You can do this too!

I don’t mean become a phenomenal artist necessarily, but you can learn to take the negative and flip it around to see the positive.

Let’s practice!

Stop for just a moment and listen to what’s happening in your thoughts…what are you thinking about? The chances are high that those thoughts are following some sort of pattern. And the chances are also fair that those thought patterns going on are giving you a hard time about something.

Do you hear anything like this:
“Why did you say that?”
“Why didn’t you say that?”
When are you going to get your life together?”
“What were you thinking?”
“You always make such a mess of things!”

Do you wish you heard this instead:
“That conversation went perfectly!”
“You handled that really well.”
“When you establish your goals and live them out, amazing things happen!”
“All that hard work has really paid off!”
“You did a great job!”

If you are experiencing the first set of thoughts more than the second, THERE IS HOPE! Will it take some work to flip the negative? Absolutely! Will it be worth it?

YES!

Oftentimes when we get stuck in that rut of yucky thought patterns, we can begin the process to turn it around by creating some space!

Give this a try.

Think about your life. Where is the place you would enjoy having less clutter and more space? Is it somewhere in your home? Spend one hour cleaning out a closet, or your desk, or the garage. Is it your schedule? Clear out 1-2 hours to relax and care for yourself with a soak in the tub, or a long walk or some leisure reading. And watch the process begin to flip the negative around to the positive!

Deeply transformational mundane activities

Come again? What in the world is a “deeply transformational mundane activity????” We read about and long for something to change us. That magical moment when, all of a sudden we are made new.

As a teen and young adult, I had the opportunity to go on regular spiritual retreats. So, I tended to “save” my transformational energy for those glorious weekends and weeks when I could really focus on my inner journey. But as those opportunities faded away, I was left to figure out my own growth and I was unsure how to facilitate it.

As a result, for far too many years, I kept “holding out” for the chance to take a retreat or vacation or go to some super-spiritual conference where I would finally experience that transformation again. Like I could order it up, add a side of glowing wisdom, pay in advance, and pick it up at my convenience.

I hate to be the one to break it to myself….but ummmm….that doesn’t really happen.

Bummer.

While I was trying to “survive” the day-to-day activities until said transformational event, I was missing out on thousands of opportunities in the “mundane” activities of life to facilitate that transformation I so desperately wanted.

Let me illustrate.Warrior 2

As you may know, I am a yoga teacher (and trainer for YogaFit Training Systems). One day I saw one of my students at the gym. She hadn’t been to yoga class in awhile, and it was great to see her. She said, “I’m sorry I haven’t been to class lately. I have been working with weights here at the gym so I can get strong enough to make it through your class.” Hmmm. I was befuddled. Why would she go to the gym to get in shape for yoga class? I asked her what part of class she found challenging. She said it was the crocodile (or chaturanga) poses. Ahh…I see. I replied, “You know, I think it’s great to work out at the gym. There are tons of benefits of being able to move weight outside your own body. However, if you want to get better at Crocodile pose….?” The light went on! “YOU HAVE TO PRACTICE CROCODILE POSE!!!!” She exclaimed.

Yes!

In that moment I was the teacher…and the student.

All of a sudden my own light went on. All that transformation I was waiting for so I could deal with the mundane daily activities of life? Yep. You guessed it. If I want to be transformed in daily life, that transformation is most likely to happen in those same mundane activities.

Now, I will say that going to the retreat or on vacation or to the super-spiritual conference is AWESOME! And I wouldn’t trade those treats for anything. BUT – much of my deepest transformation comes in the middle of the school pick-up line, working through a crazy morning at home, driving down the highway, and even preparing dinner. If life is pushing on me as I prepare dinner, I do my best to pull back and observe and see what I can learn here. And it seems that those lessons have more staying power than the fun retreat or serious conference. Why? Because I became strong enough for that “pose” of life by practicing it, right there in the moment.

Iridescent Dragonflies Facebook pageAnd this is why Iridescent Dragonflies is a thing. Once I fully embraced that my deepest transformations come from my own awareness and intentionality in the day-to-day activities of life, I realized that I am probably not the only one who is interested in finding the glorious, spiritual, transformation in the quiet moments as the day starts, shopping for groceries and checking email. And, if I like daily (or even hourly) reminders to pause and observe and intend to live from a more centered place, I thought I might as well share them in case you like them too. Those reminders happen on our Facebook page. If you haven’t been there, check it out and see if it resonates for you.

I have PTSD from being….tickled…

Yep. That’s right. PTSD from being tickled.

Perhaps it would be best to tell the back-story on this one!

When I was a little girl, I think maybe around 4-6, I was over at my aunt’s house. It was around the holidays (as best I can remember) and I was playing with all my cousins. I was the youngest in the room and also one of only two girls in a sea of boy cousins. We were all having a great time when one of my cousins picked me up to fly me like an airplane. I thought that was AWESOME! So, there I was in the air and pretending to be Wonderwoman, when my cousin thought it would be fun to tickle me. And it was fun! For a little while, anyway. But then it got to be overwhelming and I wanted down. I started yelling at him to put me down. But I was also still laughing, because how can you not laugh when someone is tickling you, right? So, he didn’t realize how serious I was. I started to panic because I couldn’t do anything to escape the (now) awful tickling! I couldn’t hit or kick or run. My body had one defense left to get me out of the situation. It was not pretty, and this is not for the squeamish…I vomited. All over my cousin. Eww.

It did work, though. He put me down on short order!

But ever since then, when someone tickles me, it isn’t funny. I get downright ANGRY. The “I can’t think about anything except for how much I want to hit this person” kind of angry. In fact, I have a really hard time not punching the guilty party! If you know me, you will recognize how out of character this is for me. I would feel bad for hitting a punching bag under normal circumstances.

YogaFit WarriorsThis entire event came up for me at a yoga conference where I was attending a training on how to use yoga to help resolve PTSD and move it through and out of the body. It was fascinating. The YogaFit for Warriors program addresses PTSD, but it also gives us tools to work through all kinds of trauma. I have come back from this training a changed person and a better yoga teacher/trainer.

When I realized during this training how I am STILL carrying this incident with me and how deeply it STILL affects me, I realized something else so much more important. I realized on the tiniest of scales how deep and awful PTSD from war or abuse or severe accidents can be. This realization deeply moves me to do what I can to support the healing process for others. I know how much transformation I experienced in just one weekend of training, so I can only imagine how transformational regular classes could be to work out those deep-seated traumas.

These things are kind of funny, aren’t they? I went to this training wanting to learn how to help other people and I ended up finding transformation first. I guess that’s how it works though, huh? My instructor Shaye said it beautifully,

“We can only help others to the degree we are willing to do the work ourselves.”

Thank you Shaye, for sharing your countless hours of work. I am forever changed for the better, and I know a host of others are, too.

How to get your 2015 transformation

Amazingly, 2015 is already well under way. There’s a lot of hype the first few days of a year about goals, resolutions, intentions, word for the year, and the like. Everyone wants to see transformation, right? But, some of that new-year feeling may already be wearing off.

But wait!

Now that the real-ness of 2015 is upon us, let’s pause for a moment. What is it you really want out of this year? Is it a goal? An intention? Do you have (or want) a “word of the year”? What would make you say “2015 was a year of transformation!”?

It’s not too late!

 Leonie Dawson workbook
I have been working through this amazing workbook by Leonie Dawson and it is truly setting the stage for great-ness! I have spent more time dreaming, planning and creating the vehicle necessary to make this year everything I hope and dream than I ever have before.

Want to know what’s crazy?

We’re only two weeks in, I’m only halfway through the workbook, and I have already seen impact in people’s lives through this little blog and our Facebook page that brought me to tears, I have felt more at ease because I have a plan, and I have already brought in 50% MORE than I had hoped to make this month and I still have two more weeks of January! Talk about transformation!

Why am I telling you all this?

Because, Sparkle Bugs, I want you to know that you absolutely CAN create your own year of awesomeness! Want to develop your meditation practice? Or, integrate some self-care into your life? Or begin working with stones and/or oils? Or perhaps cultivate the simplicity and expansiveness of learning to live in the moment?

You still can!

Set aside some “me-time” and think and WRITE down what you truly want this year. You know, they really good stuff – not just losing 10 pounds or shopping less – but the things that matter. What would bring you deep, down joy? What would cause honest-to-goodness transformation in your life this year? Then brainstorm some ways to make that very thing happen. Will it take time? An investment in a course or some resources? Will you need a friend, partner, or group to encourage you to stay on track? And then, if this is truly important to you (which I’m thinking it is if you’ve come this far in the process), then make a commitment to yourself to follow through with it. Love yourself by putting your effort and energy into it. Then get all excited to see your results!
I believe 2015 holds greatness for me because I have done (and continue to do) the work to dream it, plan for it and create it. After you take your time to do this work (or if you already have), comment below and share your big dreams of transformation with us! Let’s celebrate and encourage each other through a transformational 2015!