I have a question for you – what is your first clue that overwhelm is coming on? What is the first things you notice when there’s too many things to do, when too many people are calling for your attention.
Do you reach for another cup of coffee? Maybe you over-schedule yourself so you have an excuse for why you haven’t gotten things done. Or do you get short in your interactions with family, friends, co-workers, bosses or subordinates? If you hear things coming out of your mouth that are too pointed or that illicit shocked facial expressions from the person you’re talking to – this may be your clue!
I know when I haven’t had enough rest, my voice gets all froggy. And if I’m not rested, I am well on my way to overwhelm.
So if you’re not sure what YOUR first clue is, start to pay attention. Notice how you act when you feel happy. Then notice how you act when the emails are stacking up. And then, notice what happens *just before* your behavior changes. THIS is your clue!
When you know what your first clue is, you are well on your way to solving your overwhelm! Knowing really is half the battle! Once you recognize your first clue that overwhelm is coming, you can take a step back *before* it gets too far and make some changes. Maybe you need an earlier bedtime tonight so you feel rested tomorrow. Perhaps you need to schedule an afternoon off or a massage so you can spend some time with a deeper reset.
If you’d like to get some tools for overcoming overwhelm in the moment, get my pdf guide, Freedom from Frenzy. And if you’d like to back it up even more and learn how to stop overwhelm and frenzy before they even start, I invite you to email me to learn how we can work together to create your custom plan for developing mind-body awareness and lifestyle excellence so you can live and lead with a deep sense of inner tranquility.
Fall and winter are great! Cozy sweaters, spiced cider, sports and holidays!
I don’t know about you, but sometimes when autumn really gets going, I start to feel spacey and forgetful. And if the change in the weather is dramatic enough, I can get really dry skin and end up feeling completely ungrounded and all out-of-sorts.
Something I find amazing is how it’s the little changes that seem to make the biggest difference! Something as simple as having a cup or warm tea can make my frown turn into a smile. Or remembering to bring a light sweater can be the difference between feeling great or being completely miserable.
Check out these great tips for feeling great in the fall and winter!
I’ve had three or four conversations in the last week with people feeling completely overwhelmed with life and utterly exhausted. The story I heard goes something like this: “I’m working more than 40 hours a week, and I have to get the kids to/from school, and I have this big project at work, and my rec softball league is in a tournament next weekend, and I have to walk the dog twice a day, and grocery shop, and make dinner, etc. And then I got really sick last weekend. And I think I’m depressed. Sigh.”
I’m still not sure WHY we do it, but as a society we seem hell-bent on driving ourselves into the ground. We over-schedule like we think we can add hours to the day; take on projects and volunteer opportunities to add to our “resume” like a high-school senior trying to get into an Ivy League school. And then we are flabbergasted when we get the latest cold, flu or virus. It seems like we are actually TRYING to be exhausted.
Let’s start with an obvious example. Toddlers get kinda crazy when they’re over-tired, right? Everything gets over-blown, nothing makes them happy, they start to scream, and then cry, and the next thing you know, they’re throwing a full-blown temper-tantrum. Why? Because they’re exhausted.
I’ll try to deliver this softly. We’re not that much different as adults. Truly.
Over-scheduling and over-committing leads us to become overtired. We start to blow things out of proportion, nothing makes us happy (not the triple espressos, not the afternoon donuts, not the mani-pedi, not the date at a nice place), we get short-tempered (with our co-workers, friends and family), we may even cry, and the next thing you know, we’re having a major melt-down. Why? Because we’re exhausted.
You may think you know where this is going. But, I’m NOT going to say you should find 3-5 things to cancel or drop. I think it’s WAY more fun to look at things to ADD than take away. I know that sounds a little counter-intuitive, but stay with me.
First, write down the things that are truly important to you. Like in your calendar. And start with the basics. Like sleep. Yep. Sleep. None of us functions well or rationally without adequate sleep. So, start there. Your list is probably a little different than mine, but here are some initial areas to consider:
Now that you have the framework for your week, add in the extras. If it turns out that there’s not enough time for that extra project or activity, let it go. It WILL be ok! When you start to guard your time and energy and decide AHEAD OF TIME what you are willing to spend it on, the rest will fall into place, or fall off the schedule.
When I have done this in the past, what I have found is that I may let a couple things go here and there, but a lot of things stay the same. Yet, somehow I FEEL completely different about it all. During the process of doing this activity, I realize *I* am in control of my life and I can choose at any moment to add or subtract things from my life. I realize how powerful “No” can be in protecting my sanity, and I also realize how powerful “Yes” can be when I say it to something I REALLY want to do! And the best part? I don’t feel exhausted anymore! I feel energized to live the life I created!
So, are you ready to take your life back? Tell me, what are the three most important things in your day/week?
While it was quite chilly when I woke up this Spring morning (30-something!), it has gotten quite beautiful this afternoon. We’ve had fair amounts of rain over the last weeks, and the flowers are blooming and the grass is growing. Believe it or not, even the cacti look “fluffy” from all the rain!
While it’s officially still a couple weeks away, when Spring really gets going, we often notice changes in our bodies as well. You may feel energized to clean out the garage, or start up your favorite outdoor activities. Or, you may feel the onset of dreaded allergies and congestion. Have you noticed yourself clearing your throat a lot lately? And if that’s the case, oh for some relief!
Ayurveda, the sister science to yoga, has lots to say about Spring (and all the seasons) and how to structure your day and diet to feel our best. And that is great news! I’ve found that when I establish and follow my daily routines and best nutrition practices, I feel SO MUCH BETTER!
If you’re looking to make some changes so that you can really enjoy Spring, I highly recommend trying just one or two to start off. After you have successfully implemented those, try adding one or two more. Taking things a step or two at a time is more likely to stick than trying to do 10-15 at a time!
Starting the morning off right is a fantastic way to set up your day. Try one of these morning routine options:
Many of these routines are great all year long, so establishing your patterns now will set you up for season after season of feeling great!
Tell me, which of these resonates the most with you? Which one(s) will you implement?