In fact, that’s why Iridescent Dragonflies is even a thing.
Let me take you back a couple years…
It was the Spring of 2014 and I had been working at a job I loved as a nonprofit consultant for a little over 5 years. The company I worked for helped small nonprofits build a strong internal structure, raise money and develop better communications with their supporters. It was one of the most rewarding jobs I have ever had.
It wasn’t that I was bored with my job. Nope. Still loved it immensely. However, I felt a stirring deep inside. A stirring that compelled me to do something more personal.
You see, I was hungry. For knowledge, for growth, for a community of people who shared my same desires and hopes. And I was really interested in yoga, meditation, essential oils, energy work, and stones. I had some great friends that I very much enjoyed hanging out often we would really dive deeply into these things, but they had just moved away and I knew it would be hard to create another similar relationship built around these interests.
Remember camp as a kid or teen?
I LOVED that experience! Getting to leave behind all the stress and worry of life and hang out in some beautiful location for a week (or more) and spend time on personal growth and building relationships. I wanted to go to camp! But that doesn’t really work in the middle of work and family and carpools, does it?
I knew that if I wanted to experience personal growth and delve into these things that were so intriguing to me, then I had to figure out a way to do it right in the middle of life on a random Tuesday afternoon, or after an argument with my kids, or a disappointment at work, or whatever.
I couldn’t be the only person on the planet who wanted to experience deep personal growth but still had a life to live. Right? And if I hadn’t been able to find that community in person, or online, it was HIGHLY likely that there were other people who wanted the same thing and also hadn’t been able to find it. Right?
So it seemed absolutely clear.
I needed to create it!
So I started writing and researching and learning about the things that intrigued me. And then I started posting these things through my blog and on a FaceBook page. I wasn’t alone after all! You were there, too!
A little over two years have passed since I knew it was time to follow this deep gnawing inside. And about a year and a half since I wrote the very first blog. Since then, I have taken courses in YogaTherapy 2 (all about subtle body energies), Meditation, Essential Oils, and Yoga for PTSD. I have researched and made friends with people who know lots about stones and had many energy work sessions that have truly blown my mind. And every time I learn something new, I share it with you guys either via blog or FaceBook post.
It’s my hope that you find a community here that supports you on your own journey and connects you with resources that provide light and practical help on a Thursday afternoon. I’m so excited you are here and hope that we can share this journey for years to come. We are definitely not alone!
Are you feeling alone right now? Need a boost today? Looking for something to brighten up this moment? Here are 5 of my favorite ways to bring myself back to the moment and live in joy. Feel free to download and print it out!
Graduations happen all over the country this time of year. But usually they just pass on by and I don’t think too much about it.
You see, my firstborn is graduating High School this year and so I’ve been thinking about it A LOT.
As we all know, the ceremony is typically called “Commencement” and when I was graduating, it didn’t make much sense to me to call it “Beginning” when it was CLEARLY and “Ending.”
I am older and (hopefully) wiser these days and now I LOVE that it’s called “Commencement.” Every ending is the beginning of something else and so to name the event “Beginning” truly is a wonderful way to go!
So often in life we are completely focused on what we’re losing, or who we will miss that we cannot see all the possibility in front of us. Just think back to a transition that you were super sad about. Remember the tears? The sorrow? The nervous-ness? Apprehension?
Think about what happened next. What new life experiences did you have? What new friends did you make?
So that sorrowful ending became an exciting new beginning didn’t it? Even if the new thing wasn’t perfect, or had it’s share of bumps along the way – would you agree that something fantastic happened that you are so grateful for? Perhaps it was the new place or job. Maybe it was the new friend you gained that you cannot imagine life without now. Or perhaps a lesson learned that may have been painful but has served you well ever since.
Sometimes our Commencements are a natural flow of life and we know they are coming – like Graduation or a job promotion. Other times they come at us like a freight train and out of nowhere – like a job loss, or the death of a loved one or a unexpected illness.
And other times?
We choose our Commencement! Sometimes it’s as simple as New Year’s Resolutions, or the decision to join the gym or make friends with people who are a positive influence. The point is, we can CHOOSE a new beginning any time! This is fantastic news!
Does all this “New Beginning” talk make you want to choose a new beginning RIGHT NOW???
What is one thing you’d like to begin – TODAY? And what are three steps you can take as you begin this new thing? I’d LOVE to hear from you what your Commencement is and how you plan to get started. Email me and let me know!
It’s that time of year. School is winding down and kids are graduating. Mine included. My oldest is graduating high school this year. I admit – I am mostly in denial about this fact. I am none too happy that the child grew up so fast, and GRADUATION??? THAT was NOT supposed to happen this quickly!
And yet, I am grateful, too. Grateful to have a son. Grateful that he has made it this far and has done so well. It’s a big moment all the way around.
Well, the other day I was on FaceBook and one of my friends from Moore High School was posting that her daughter is also graduating this year! Her daughter is a Valedictorian at the same high school where we were part of the Valedictorian group. Her daughter was asking for advice on writing her speech and so my friend dug out the high school box where she had KEPT our speeches from graduation all those years ago!
Moore High School was pretty big back in the day, and so there were 22 of us that gave speeches that night as best I can recall. We each had something like 25 seconds to share our parting thoughts with our fellow students. I counted – and my speech was exactly 6 sentences long. I really didn’t know what to say, but did my best to come up with something (anything!) that would fit the bill for Graduation Night.
Let’s suffice it to say I did not want to make that speech AT ALL.
I labored over those six sentences! Rough draft. Editing. Re-writing. Practicing. Worrying. Starting all over. Etc. Etc. Etc.
Anyway – my friend took pics of all twenty-two speeches (Xerox copies made from the dot matrix original, you know) and posted them! So I got to re-read what I had written. First, it was humbling. NOT a work of art, I tell ya! It wasn’t particularly well written. Nor was it compelling.
Even twenty-six years ago I knew something deep down. I knew that we are more than just our surroundings. We are more than our graduating class. We are more than our town. We are more than our nation.
We are individuals.
Each of us has a beautiful gift to give. Even in 1990 (I know – eeek!), I had the sneaking suspicion that each of us have a wonderful sparkly self to share with the world.
So that’s the story. Before I had ANY idea that I would go to University and earn a Bachelors in Music Education, get married, teach for 3 years, have two amazing kids, work for an insurance company, teach private piano/voice lessons, do the stay-at-home-mom thing, be in a band, work as a nonprofit consultant, and become a yoga trainer…before any of that – I KNEW that we each have something beautiful to offer.
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I hide it, or disregard it, or think it isn’t sparkly ENOUGH. But guess what? IT IS. When we cover it up, or hide it in a corner, or whatever, we’re not the only ones who miss out, EVERYONE misses out.
So if that’s been you – if you’ve denied that thing that makes you unique and amazing, let’s change that. Take it out, dust it off, tell it you’re sorry, and then LET IT SHINE!
Please tell me, what is that special thing that makes you, you?
What’s the most important item on your schedule today?
I hope it’s YOU.
You know that feeling when your schedule is too busy and you feel like you’re running all over the place and there’s no time for yourself?
The only person who has control over the busy-ness of your schedule is….yep…YOU!
So, whataya say? Are you willing to make yourself a priority? It really isn’t that hard, it just takes a little planning. If you haven’t already, how about trying one of these today:
These things are so simple, but can absolutely change the trajectory of your whole day!
Have you seen Kung Fu Panda? It’s amazing to me the life lessons that you can learn in a cartoon movie! In the movie, the wise teacher is a turtle named Oogway. In a critical moment of the movie, one of the cahracters, Shifu tells Oogway that he has “very bad news!”
Shifu: Master! I have… it’s very bad news!
Oogway: Ah, Shifu. There is just news. There is no good or bad.
I love this moment in the movie! I recall it often when I want to jump to conclusions and immediately assign the label of “good” or “bad” to a situation. How can I truly know if something is good or bad? Some things that I thought were just awful in the moment have turned out to be the biggest blessings of my life, while other situations that seemed grand at the outset have nearly sunk me in the end. When we receive news, let’s pause for a moment and realize that it is only news. It is not good news or bad news. We have the choice of how we will respond.
Even in the middle of an intense situation, we can choose to care for ourselves. I have seen this in action and it is POWERFUL! Even when the situations of life are not what you had hoped or planned, and it seems like “very bad news,” we can make the conscious choice to take care of ourselves and make that care our top priority of the day. We all “know” it’s true, but we simply MUST take care of ourselves if we are to take care of anyone else.
So, Dragonfly, please share. What will you do to take care of YOU today?
I know it’s happened to you. And it happened to me just last week. Let me take you there:
The week has been kinda busy, but not too bad. I am heading out for a yoga training, and truly excited to be going. I gather all my stuff and a good friend arrives to take me to the airport. As we open the door to take my luggage out, my dog Finley, who is typically very well-behaved, decides this is the best possible time to run out the front door! Seriously?!?! She’s off like a shot and we can’t find her anywhere. We walk down the street, we drive around the neighborhood. No dog. And it’s time to go! I can’t spend anymore time looking for her, so I call my husband who’s at work and THANKFULLY someone has already found her and just called him to let him know. Whew. We make it to the airport in time and I get on my flight. I arrive at my connecting airport, have a fantastic dinner and get on flight number two. Once I arrive at my destination, I get my rental car. I can’t locate my phone charger right away, so I opt to use the car GPS instead. This creates the first snafu (that I’m aware of). The darn thing doesn’t work very well and I end up getting lost three times. Ugh. It’s late and I need to get to bed! I (finally) arrive at my hotel. As is my common practice, I get all my materials ready before calling it a night only to realize that I have left MULTIPLE items on one flight or the other! Including my phone charger (brand new, of course) and other items that I could really use this weekend. Sigh. I won’t bore you with the rest of the weekend, but suffice it to say that this first evening on the way to my hotel was only the TIP of the iceberg!
So what did I do? How did I survive the craziness (mostly caused by myself)? It took all my efforts and, honestly, it has taken me a few days to recover. I took out all the stops and went immediately into nurturing mode!
If you have felt this way, and wondered what to do, perhaps some of these ideas will help as you develop a nurturing environment:
I know this list isn’t exhaustive, but hopefully you found at least one tool you can use to help you get over “one of those days!” It has taken concentrated effort, but I am definitely on the mend and I am feeling very nurtured by my steps towards this level of loving care.
I’d love to hear from you! What’s your favorite way to care for yourself in the middle of a crazy day, week, or time of life? We have all discovered ways to work through difficult times. Let’s share them together!
On Tuesday I had the amazing opportunity to be a part of the OM Wisdom Summit 2016! In that interview I talk about Absolute Lifestyle Revolution and many ways you can find true transformation in your life today! (Watch the replay!)
In the interview I also discuss several ways to start your morning off with love. But before I get ahead of myself – have you ever had a morning like this…
The alarm goes off. Your first thought is not, “Good morning, bright and beautiful world!” but something closer to, “Seriously? I can’t do it. I’m EXHAUSTED.” You roll over and grab your phone and start scrolling through Facebook with bleary eyes. After you get “caught up” on what’s happening, you stumble out of bed and start rushing to get ready. So many things to do and not nearly enough time! Maybe you forgot to get the stuff for the kids’ lunches at the store, or you left your own lunchbox at the office. Argh. Now you’re behind and need to squeeze in a stop at the grocery to grab something quick and easy. Or not. Is it really THAT bad to eat out of the vending machine? Again? In your rush out of the kitchen, you grab your coffee mug and head out the door. You set it in top of the car while you throw your stuff in (like always), and then it tips over and you now have coffee all over the clothes you have to wear for your first meeting or appointment of the day. Sigh. Why does this ALWAYS happen???
Why DOES this always happen? That’s a great question. It can be hard to chase down the exact cause sometimes, but regardless of what got you here, I have some great tips to start the morning a whole different way. With love. And peace. And calm.
Doesn’t that sounds good? I know I like to mornings that start with intention and peace.
A couple of years ago I took my first Ayurveda training and felt like it revealed the secrets to the universe! Now I realize that this is quite a statement, but all the same, I think it’s true.
Perhaps I should start at the beginning…
Ayurveda is the sister science to Yoga and brings balance to our bodies using diet, herbs and yoga. After having completed my Yoga Teacher Training through YogaFit Training Systems, I wanted to start exploring the “squishy” parts of yoga. I didn’t even really know what that meant, exactly. I just knew how much I loved what I had learned and experienced with yoga and thought if there was more to learn, then I wanted to learn it! So, the first training that caught my eye was Ayurveda I.
Well about an hour into the training, I was so blown away by the intro, that I wanted to stop right there and just let it soak in! I felt like the overview about the three aspects of each of our own constitutions had unlocked the secrets of life. Having someone explain how my body constitution also gave insight into my behavioral aspects and tendencies, and those of my family was life-changing! I finally understood why I act the way I do sometimes, and why my husband and kids act the way they do sometimes and how that ties so directly into our body-types and our diet. Lifelong secrets revealed!
The information just kept coming and I learned so many things about how my daily care routine can set my day up for success (sign up to hear my upcoming interview with Renee Li on the OM Wisdom Summit on this very topic here). I learned about how it’s not just a clean diet that best serves our bodies, but how even among whole foods, there are some that are better than others at balancing each of our constitutions.
And I learned even more about breath.
Have you ever thought about how breathing is 50% work and 50% relaxation?
I know that’s a big obvious, but really, THINK about that!
I believe that so many of life’s lessons can be learned from the breath. We can discover how we respond to stress, we can relieve stress. We can breathe shallow or deep. We can hold our breath or hyper-ventilate. We can breathe on purpose or let it happen passively.
But when I REALLY thought about how breath is 50/50 on the work and relaxation, I was so inspired I wrote a poem. It’s called Ode to the Breath.
Yes, I KNOW. It’s SUPER cheesy. But I gotta tell ya, this breath revelation was revolutionary for me! Here’s what was so magical about it for me – I realized that if our most basic building block of life, the breath, needed as much rest as it needed work, then why did I think I was any different?
Why did I think I could work more than half the day and only rest a little? How was that ever gonna work out? Well I have a little secret –
From there it just kept branching out. I started to look at my morning routine and what was working and what wasn’t. I started to incorporate things that created an environment for beautiful starts to my day. And then I started looking at my evening routine. What I found there was that the simplest things (foot massage, evening meditation, cup of tea) helped me transition from a busy day into a relaxed state for sleep. It turns out that the “secrets” aren’t so secretive after all!
Do I knock it out the park and do these things every single day without failing. No way. But I do them more often than I don’t. AND, when I’m feeling out of sorts, the first thing I do is check my routines. If I’ve fallen off the wagon of practices that I KNOW work for me, then that’s where I start to put it all back together. Tools in the toolbox are the ticket to climbing out of overwhelm for me.
If you’re intrigued by all this and would like to learn some more of the secrets that have revolutionized my life, watch my interview with Renee from the OM Wisdom Summit where I unpack a great morning routine and discuss several other tools to find your calm in the middle of a random Tuesday. Enjoy!
Whatcha been doin’ lately? Have you been running around like crazy trying to get everything done? Sacrificing your own needs to take care of people around you? Yep. Me too. Sometimes we just need to pull back and take 10 – like a 10 minute break to get it back together!
So, earlier this week I decided to re-group a bit and revitalize my daily routines that nourish my mind, body and soul. Even the great routines can start to feel tired if we keep on doing the same ol’ thing without keeping it fresh, right? So, here’s a few of the things I changed up.
I like to use a mantra or positive affirmation when I meditate. When I evaluated, I realized that I have gotten into a habit of just repeating it without REALLY paying attention to what it means. So, I purposed to pay attention and consider my affirmation with each repetition. AMAZING the difference this one simply step can make! Ready to meditate? Check this one out – I made it for you!
There are a few things I like to do to take care of myself each morning, you know, besides brushing my teeth and applying deodorant! Lately, I’ve been kinda lazy about my routine though. I really like to begin the morning with my tongue-scraper, and then move on to dry-brushing before my shower and then finish up with applying sesame oil to moisturize. I ran out of oil a couple weeks ago and hadn’t replaced it. I was using regular lotion, which is fine, I guess, but something about using the oil makes me feel like I am really taking care of myself, so I got a new bottle for myself. It’s so great!
It’s true – sometimes I waste time scrolling through FaceBook when I could be taking a nice break from screen time and general busy-ness. I know I’m not alone here. So, this week, I reminded myself to put my phone down when I realized I was using it to fill up mind-space. It’s amazing how much more beautiful real life is than keeping your head in cyber-world! If it’s been awhile since you’ve taken a screen break, I highly recommend it!
While completing my yearly workbooks from Leonie Dawson, I came across Leonie’s recommendation to read The Art of Extreme Self-Care by Cheryl Richardson. It’s great! Some of the things I already do, and some I have decided to try. If you are looking for some ways to bring more love from yourself into your life, this is a great read!
What I’ve realized over the years is that taking care of myself isn’t hard. It’s just that it takes some thought and planning and an intention to follow-through with it. If you’d like to hear more about this, catch my interview with Renee Li on the OM Wisdom Summit 2016. It’s coming up in just a couple weeks. Click here to see the full schedule of interviews. There are several wonderful speakers this year! Here are some things you can expect:
Develop stronger intuition to access peace and clarity
Power up your body with healthy aging and preventative care
Adopt healthy habits that offer you perfect health
Clear blocks to create full color transformation
Utilize Crystal Magic for well-being
Align with your Greater purpose for fulfillment
Awaken your inner Healer
So, tell me, what is your favorite way to “take 10” and take care of yourself?
Spring is here! At least in Phoenix, AZ. And we all know what that means –
Time to clean out the garage and storage areas before it gets to be 110 degrees outside!
I got a little jump start on the garage this year. I was feeling kind of restless one extra balmy Saturday a few weekends ago and decided that I couldn’t stand looking at the mess for one more minute. So I rearranged and cleaned to my heart’s content. It looks AWESOME now! Everything in its place.
My next order of business in the Spring Cleaning department has nothing to do with the garage or even the house though. Know what it is? My gut. Yep. Time to do a little digestive reset. The heaviness of holiday foods and comfort foods of winter are on their way out and I can tell my digestion would really appreciate a little Spring Cleaning of its own.
Would your body say THANK YOU if you took a few days to clean out the cheese dip from the Super Bowl and gave it the boost of greens and water that it needs?
I’m starting a cleanse next week and would love to do it together so we can give each other lots of awesome support! How about you?
If you’re thinking YES then email me right now!
If you’re thinking, I dunno…..maybe….then email me RIGHT NOW!
We can break those sugar cravings in just a few days and get rid of lingering holiday pounds all at the same time!
What’s even cooler is that I can get you a $50 discount on your first order! Woo hoo! It doesn’t get better than that!
Transformation can have a lot of different faces and transforming how our body processes and craves food is a big one for setting the stage for us to be and feel our best!
I work with people everyday to bring transformation to their lives. For some of them, it is through yoga class, for others it’s through voice or piano lessons, still others have private coaching sessions. In all of them, we talk about the tools we can use to create the life we want. Some are looking for a healthier body, others to learn a skill they don’t have and others are looking to build confidence or add an element of fun to their days and weeks. No matter what we are studying or working on though, they all want to know my recommendation on how to achieve the transformation they are looking for.
Over the weeks, months and years I have spent working with people to create lives they love, one thing comes around over and over. So many people I talk to are looking for that deep sense of inner peace. A calm center from which to navigate all of life’s challenges – everything from managing family schedules to major life-changes. People need, and want a dependable anchor to hold onto.
If you truly want to take your life to the next level and you don’t yet have a meditation practice, this is your next step. This is my top recommendation for deep inner transformation! I sincerely believe that you will only be able to access that deep inner peace and confidence after you commit to and begin a regular meditation practice.
You don’t have to go to India, or to an ashram or a retreat center or even your local religious establishment. You can begin your practice today. Now. With your very next breath if you want. You don’t even have to get up from where you are!
My first attempts at meditation were, um, haphazard at best. I was trying soooo hard to do it “right” without realizing that there is no “right” way to meditate. Meditation is very personal. There are some tried and true formats you can start with, and you may find one you really like. But you may give a few of them a try only to realize that you hear the beat of your own meditation drummer and would like to develop your own very personal practice. That’s totally cool too!
I have lots of recommendations of places to start, but my biggest encouragement is this: choose one practice and stick with it for at least a month. That gives you enough time to get to know the style of meditation before you give it the boot. These things take time. Let it percolate and breathe. As you settle into the practice, the practice helps to settle you.
If you are ready to go, have I got a deal for you! Click the button below for a FREE Calming Meditation to help you access your deep inner peace and calm. I LOVE hearing from you guys, so if you have meditation experiences or questions, give me a shout!