I used to have this GREAT job. I worked for a small company that provides resources and consulting for nonprofits. I had the privilege of helping create the company and poured my heart and soul into the thing. My boss (and friend) was the BEST at accommodating my crazy schedule with two kiddos and sporadic travel related to my “side gig” and I couldn’t have asked for better work-mates. I tell ya, I LOVED this job!
You see, I have been on this massive transformational journey that has come to into full-color over the last year. I experienced a dragonfly (check that out here), I went to a YogaFit conference that completely blew me away as I learned even more about stones and oils and meditation, and I had some amazing conversations around a fire pit with this guy and his amazing wife (www.tedbaird.com) that helped me frame and shape all the things I was learning. I have stretched. I have grown. I have struggled. I have wrestled. And…
And, as a result, I have learned and experienced so many new things that I just KNEW could have HUGE impact for other people if I could just carve out enough time to tell the story and create the container for some time and space to explore and grow and learn together. But the truth was I just couldn’t get all that done while I was working at my job, no matter how awesome it was. So I quit.
Since then (late June 2014), I have been working to get this site up and running and learn all kinds of cool new stuff about creating a blog people might actually like to read and how to offer retreats and other stuff that would be appealing as well. This has been a fun journey, too. Full of twists and turns and frustrations and joys (as is all of life, right?).
I am planning my first retreat for the spring in Sedona, AZ (a truly gorgeous place) most likely in March and those details will be coming as soon as all the moving pieces are all settled in place and I truly hope you can come join me. We will have a blast!
Thanks for hanging out. I can hardly wait to meet you in person!
If you’ve been with me since the beginning (two months running now!), some of this will be familiar. But I thought this might be a nice time to share a bit more about myself for those who are just stopping in. An introduction (or reintroduction) of sorts…
Name: Jenn Tarrant
Fun Facts: I love telling stories (with ALL the details), my favorite fall beverage is a Soy Salted Caramel Black and White Mocha with Whip, Caramel Sauce and the Salt Topping (go big or go home, right?), my toenails are painted a minimum of 363 days a year, Disney movie quotes make up a strong 15% of my daily conversation, and I divide my gum in half when I chew it so neither side of my mouth feels left out (I know, there’s help…).
Free Time Activities: reading, taking long walks, coffee with friends, making jewelry
Roots: Born and raised in Oklahoma City, 3 years in Texas, living in Phoenix, AZ for the past 14 years
Favorite Fact About Myself: (I always have about three favorites for anything and everything) – I love to laugh, I am a great teacher, I am a pretty darn good designer!
I have had a wild ride figuring out who I am and why I am the way I am and thought I must surely NOT be the only person who has experienced a journey like this. BUT, I am not sure how many others are sharing their stories and bringing other people along with them. Regardless, no one else has my EXACT story and so, if some find their own path to transformation through me sharing my story, I am super excited to be a part of THAT!
The way I see things, we are ALL on a transformational journey. Some of us embrace it, some of us go to the nearest hide-y hole and wait for this whole thing called life to be over as fast as possible, and a lot of us fall somewhere in between. This blog is for those of us in the middle; particularly those who recognize transformation is a good idea, but for any variety of reasons are apprehensive to jump in or don’t quite know where to start or are unsure if we are truly amazing enough to invest all that effort. I have news for us all – WE ARE BRILLIANT BEYOND MEASURE! (thank you Marianne Williamson for that quote of awesomeness!) Let’s hang out and make our full-color transformations together, okie dokie?
I have a lot going on right now (who doesn’t, right?), but I am probably most excited about launching the Facebook aspect of Iridescent Dragonflies and generating lots of new friends to share this awesome transformational journey! Other than that, I have mostly been working my own transformation like it’s going out of style. I am learning all kinds of things about myself and have found that I actually LIKE me and am excited to be meeting new people who are interested in the same things I am and helping each other out along the way. Living life is pretty stinkin’ exciting right now, I have to say!
Far and away it is this: YOU are worth your own investment. YOU are worth sharing with others. YOU have a message to share that WE need to hear. YOU are too AWESOME to miss! So get with it and start your iridescent transformation already!
Just to clarify right off the bat, I do not now and have not ever been a drug-user. : ) But today, when I went to compulsively check the Facebook feed (don’t pretend I’m the only one, because I know I’m not!), I realized I have a “drug problem.” It’s not a pill I pop in my mouth, but it is my “drug of choice” I “use” to fill the emptiness, to numb the challenging feelings, to escape my reality for a few minutes. So, what’s your “drug of choice”?
I don’t think this is something we have to get all judgmental on ourselves about. But it is great awareness to have. What do I turn to when I think I can’t handle the day? What keeps me from experiencing what’s happening right here, right now? When I was scrolling through that Facebook feed, I came across a friend who posted that she had deleted the FB app off her phone simply because she realized she filled ALL the little gaps in her day with it. So, she got a bigger purse and put a BOOK in there to READ in her spare moments! What a concept! I am so inspired I am considering doing the same thing (thank you Skila, you trend setter)! You can check out other Skila-amazingness here: www.skilatheyoaggirl.com
So, thanks to Skila’s inspiration, I have decided to pause before I reach for my phone, or open my computer, or grab a chocolate, or any of those things that distract me from this moment and ask myself WHY I am doing so. If it’s because I am “using” it to take my attention away from my family or my friends or even my breath? If so, I intend to PUT IT DOWN and choose to simply “be” in this wonderful moment that has been given to me as a beautiful gift.
We have a bit of an obsession in our culture. It’s called overachieving. And we have grown to believe deep, deep down that if we are not OVERachieving, we are not achieving anything at all.
Why do I know this? Because I do it. All. The. Time.
Those closest to me (and probably anyone within a 53 mile radius) can attest to the sad-but-true fact that I cannot seem to slow down EVER. Despite my best efforts and telling myself little-white-lies about how I didn’t really do THAT much today, I am an obsessive over-achiever with the best of ’em.
So, I decided to try something new…UNDERachieving. Yep, for the past six weeks it has been my sole purpose to figure out what it means to be bored. Scheduling as little as possible and even SITTING ON THE COUCH!!!! (Hence the lack of posts here of late…)
Did I do it? Well, yes and no. As I look back, I see days when I have no idea what I did because it was certainly nothing measurable! But I also look back and see that I still did a fair amount of over-scheduling, I went on a whirlwind trip to New Orleans for 5 days, and last week I had something on the schedule – every. single. day.
So, um…why do I say I accomplished the goal? Because I was aware. Because I DID change some of my frenetic habits. Because I spent some of those days releasing clutter from my life (thank you Beth Shaw and YogaLean for the prompt on this one!). Because I returned to my practice of sitting in meditation twice a day. Because I made a concentrated effort to actually experience my experiences (thanks Ron Martoia). And because I came out of denial and owned my overachieving craziness and decided to LOVE MYSELF ANYWAY! And, I think that last little bit on self-love actually released some of my need to overdo it all the time.
Here’s a challenge – try it for yourself. Maybe you don’t have the luxury of taking a six-week trial or don’t want to, but set a time that works for you and explore what it looks and feels like to do less, and sit more, and watch the clouds roll by (it’s called practicing awareness). It’s pretty amazing what we see when we take the time to release the need for achieving. I’d love to hear what happens! Leave a comment below or email me!
My entire family loves the Lord of the Rings movies. We watch them at least once a year, and most years even more than that. Well, last night was one of those nights – complete with popcorn and s’mores (with gourmet chocolate, of course)!
In The Twin Towers (movie number two), three of the characters, Aragorn (a man), Legolas (an elf) and Gimli (a dwarf) are running across the country-side in an effort to save two of their Hobbit friends (Merry and Pippin) from certain death. As you might imagine, Gimli, being a dwarf, is having some challenges keeping up with the much taller and leaner Legolas and Aragorn. As he seems to be about to give up, he says, “Keep breathing. That’s the key.”
Arguably, one of the oldest meditation and mindfulness practices around is breathing. Yup. Breathing. This seems too good to be true! We don’t have to read a manual or hire a coach or ANYTHING – this is something WE CAN DO!
Simply paying attention to our breath brings us into the present moment instantly, slows our heart rate, and takes our stress level down a notch!
Not sure if you believe me? Let’s give it a try…I’ll practice while I’m typing it, you practice while you’re reading it. Inhale. Feel the air coming in. Notice the movement in your body (tummy expanding, chest rising). Exhale. Feel the air moving out. Notice the contraction of your ribs and abdomen. Now, check in with your stress level – notice any change? I do, and I thought I was relaxed already!
Now imagine what might happen if you tried this little trick anytime you feel stress coming on, or as you drive in rush-hour traffic, or even stand in the grocery line. If you strung about 10 minutes’ worth of these purposeful-breath-things together everyday, I dare say, your life might even change for the better. It’s certainly not going to hurt anything! Give it a try and see what happens.
“Keep breathing. That’s the key.”
It’s a beautiful Sunday afternoon. The sky is a gorgeous blue with the prettiest puffy clouds. I slept in this morning, had some breakfast, and am home with the fam for the afternoon. Everyone is doing their own thing. We are all healthy. We have everything we need.
I was thinking about writing something and all I could think was, “Do dragonflies ever have bad days?”
If I sit and ponder why I DO feel lifeless and blue, it’s because nothing exciting is going on. I don’t have anything on the schedule today and if I’m completely honest, I am fairly addicted to having something to DO. All. The. Time. I want to have an appointment to go to, or a yoga class to teach, or a coffee date with a friend. Or something. Anyone else ever do this? Can I get a witness?
So, I can’t really ask a dragonfly if they have bad days, but here’s why I don’t think they do:
Like this moment. Even if there’s nothing to do. Even if there’s lots to do. Even if they are with all the other dragonflies. Even if they are all by themselves. Every single moment is full of life for them.
One of my favorite yoga songs has this line – “Even loneliness is full of life.” And it is. So, I think I will take a lesson from the dragonflies and the yoga song and experience the fullness of the moment – even if it’s a little blue, or lonely, or downright boring. Because, really, the amazing moments are only amazing because of the ho-hum moments on a random, beautiful, Sunday afternoon.
One of the best ways I know to get in touch with the now is to do a presence meditation. The best ones for me, especially when I am so obviously dealing with a busy-ness addiction is to sit outside for 15-30 minutes and simply notice all the beauty around me. Whenever I get distracted with a thought (often), I just remind myself that I am practicing presence and come back to the observation. Sometimes this just doesn’t work and when that’s the case, I like to use a mindfulness app that gives me a little guidance.
And with that said – I am headed outside! I actually do feel better all ready. Amazing!
The other day, my daughter and I were at the grocery store picking up a few things for dinner. We were talking about school and telling stories from the day.
I had no idea she was about to dump a profound nugget in my lap.
She asked if I would buy her some chocolate. (That’s my girl!)
“Why do you want chocolate?” (A question that needs no answer, really.)
“Because nothing is really happening today, and I want chocolate so I have something to look forward to. My friend Andi says that she leaves chocolate on her nightstand everyday so that even if the day turns out bad, she still has something to look forward to.”
Here’s what I love about that (even more than the girl’s connection with the food of the gods) – Andi has created for herself a yummy nightly meditation. Something that she knows will end the day on a positive note. Every. Single. Day.
Now, I am completely down with any meditation of a chocolate variety. But it’s totally cool if something else speaks to you. It could be a guided meditation, a nature sounds app on your phone, a warm bath or a nightly cup of chamomile tea that makes the perfect ending to your day.
What I know is this: when I take the time and effort to put a mindfulness or yummy meditation practice in my morning and evening routines, my outlook is better, my disposition is better, and I think my friends and family enjoy my company a little more, too.
What is it that creates that soothing ending to your day?
Like all of us, I came into this world knowing how to simply “be.” Then somewhere along the way, I forgot what that was like and it took some number of years for me to re-learn what “being” felt like. Here’s how that happened:
I am the only child in my family. And an adopted only child at that. I used to have a lot of issues around that, but I am on the other side now and couldn’t be more grateful for how I came to be my parents’ daughter. But that is a story for another day. . .
ANYWAY (it might be good to note here that I am easily distracted) –
We lived on 5 acres on the outskirts of Oklahoma City. We were pretty removed from city conveniences (which had its inconveniences), but what was GREAT about it was that it was so peaceful. Wide open spaces. Little ponds. A few wild animals here and there. It was a grand place to grow up!
One evening when I was around 10 years old, my dad and I walked to the back of the property to pick blackberries and tend to the garden where we grew potatoes, strawberries, okra (it was Oklahoma, people, we had to have fried okra), pumpkins and more yellow squash than the entire county could consume in a summer. By the time we were done, the sun was setting and the evening cooling off a little. Dad and I walked on the path that went in between two tiny little creeks where I would fish for crawdads in the afternoons. We were talking about the constellations and I wanted to know how to find them. So, we laid down in the cool green grass on our backs and he showed me how to find the Little Dipper, Orion, and a bunch of other ones I have since forgotten.
We could have been there for 5 minutes or an hour. I don’t know. Or care. It has lived in my memory all these years and reminds me that the simplest things can also be the most profound. My heart rate and breathing automatically slow down and stress melts away when I remember that time and it was 30+ years ago!
I know we all come into this world knowing ONLY how to “be.” Then we forget. With any grace at all, we remember somewhere along the journey. I am so grateful for my experience. It has been a cornerstone for me.
I would be honored to hear your story of the first time you remembered how to “be” still and free. If you’d like to share it, please leave a comment below.
One day several months ago, I decided to head over to an off-the-beaten-path coffee shop to do some personal work. You know, listen to an encouraging, yet butt-kicking self-help webinar, do some journaling, and try to figure out what to do with myself in general. I had been in quite a funk for about a year (or so I said, it was really more like 5 years) and had become desperate to find something (anything!) that would help get me out of my fog and into some clarity already!
I was sitting outside because all the tables inside were taken. I was kind of irritated about that since it was about 112 degrees outside (seriously – I live in Phoenix), but was trying to make the most of it anyway. While I sat and listened to the webinar, a lot of the things they were saying really got me fired up about making some changes and DOING SOMETHING with my life. I was beginning to remember who I am deep down inside and realizing that it might be helpful to myself and everyone else to let my true colors show.
At that moment, a dragonfly comes flying right in front of my face a few times and then lands on the antenna of a car parked right beside my sidewalk table. It is on the antenna straight up and down and, I promise, the thing was staring right at me. He obviously didn’t talk out loud, but he might as well have! (Stay with me here!) I could sense him saying to me, “It’s time for you to stand up, like me, and show the beauty of your colors. The whole world is missing out because you keep hiding in the shadows.”
This caused me to TAKE NOTICE! I don’t know if you have ever looked into animal/spirit totems (I have a native american heritage, so I check them out from time to time), but I HAD TO KNOW on this one! Here’s what I found:
“When (the dragonfly) shows up in your life, it’s an indication that it’s time for change. Just like the dragonfly changes colors as it matures, you may be called to live and experience yourself differently. Stay open to the enfoldment of your personal journey.”
I don’t think the message could have been more clear – it’s time to make some changes and live in full color.
Welcome to the unfolding of my personal journey.