10,000 ways to NOT fail

It’s all about perspective, isn’t it?

There aren’t quite 10,000 ways I feel like I have failed this holiday season, but close!

I haven’t even bought Christmas Cards, much less addressed them or sent them, I haven’t decorated, I haven’t even been listening to much holiday music (which I ALWAYS do….well, except this year, I guess), I have only purchased a couple of gifts and have no thoughts on the un-purchased ones, we haven’t put up the tree…and the list goes on.

It seems the only thing I have felt “successful” at this holiday season is making sure I get an adequate number of holiday lattes in. No failing in this category! I have enjoyed those like no one else.

This list is much more fun to make:

  • Salted Caramel MochaSalted Caramel Black & White Mocha (when the other one gets to be too much)
  • Caramel Brulee Latte
  • Chestnut Praline Latte
  • Chestnut Praline Latte with the Salted Caramel Topping
  • Pumpkin Spice Latte
  • Pumpkin Spice Chai Latte
  • Peppermint Mocha
  • Peppermint Black and White Mocha (again, for when the regular mocha is just too much…)

Ok, that should give you a general idea. And don’t think there wasn’t a Snowman Cookie or Cranberry Bliss Bar or Peppermint Brownie thrown in from time to time, either! Because there most certainly was. Dear me….it’s a good thing I teach yoga everyday of my life…oh the calories…

What is my point here, other than to show off my skill in consuming high-fat, high-calorie, high-sugar beverages (with a cookie on the side)???

It’s this: we can find a zillion things that we think we are failing at, especially during the holidays when we think we have to make everything picture perfect. It’s so easy to compare ourselves to our parents, our friends and the commercials on TV. You know what? TV is not real, and our friends struggle with their own stuff, as did (or do) our parents. Nobody (as in, no person on the planet) has it all together.

So what can we take away from this?

How about this? Let’s give ourselves a little grace. Release some of those expectations. If we see something that’s not working, let’s reframe it – instead of looking at it as a fail, let’s choose to see that now we know it doesn’t work. And the move on.

So, I am going to give myself permission to not be “perfect” this year. I am going to recognize the things that aren’t working, make some changes if they seem like a good idea, and then let the rest of it go. (I mean, am I really a bad person and total failure if I don’t listen to the Christmas radio station everyday? No, I don’t really think so.) And in the event I am having a hard time giving myself grace, I will play this little game: if my best friend told me she felt like an awful person because she hadn’t been listening to carols on the radio, what would I say to her?

So, my iridescent friends, let’s relax, breathe, and enjoy the full-color beauty in each moment, starting with this one. What is beautiful right this very second?